Enjoying sex and your body

Enjoying sex is all about being comfortable with your body, your partner and the sort of sex you're having.

Just like being happy with the clothes you wear or the music you listen to, sex can be about doing things you like and things that make you feel good.

Knowing what feels good

It's absolutely fine to touch your body in ways that feel good - masturbating is completely natural and lots of men and women do it. But it is a personal thing, so it's a good idea to do it somewhere private.

Different things feel good to different people. Some people reach orgasm quickly, whereas for other people it can take a lot longer. It might take you a while to find out exactly what you like sexually and, at first, you might not have an orgasm at all, but exploring your own body will help you work out what you like. And when you know what makes you feel, good it's easier to tell your partner how they can give you even more pleasure.

Relationships are all about communication, and talking about sex means that you and your partner will know what you do and don't like.

Doing it right

When it comes to sex, there is no right or wrong, it's all about what feels good to you.

If something doesn't feel nice, let your partner know - after all, they can't read your mind. If a position or the way someone is touching you doesn't feel right, why not make a suggestion to change it. That way you can find out together what feels good for both of you.

Feeling worried or nervous

It's normal to feel excited by the thought of having sex with someone you fancy. But you might feel nervous or worried about some things too.

Lots of boys and young men worry about the size of their penis, premature ejaculation, losing their erection (erectile disfunction) or just about whether sex will go well and if their partner will enjoy it. Most men experience these issues at some point in their lives, and it might be a one-off or happen a few times. Research shows that most men ejaculate within a few minutes of penetration, although some last longer and others ejaculate even quicker. It can feel embarrassing, but it's usually a phase that passes and you will find that the more confident and comfortable you feel with someone, the less likely you are to be affected these things.

Lots of girls and young women worry about whether sex will be painful, or whether they will enjoy it. Sex isn't just about penetration, and lots of girls won't actually reach orgasm through penetrative sex. This is because they need their clitoris stimulated to make them orgasm.

It's important to find out what you really enjoy sexually, so that you and your partner can enjoy sex together.

It helps to talk to your friends, parents or close family about these sorts of things, but if that feels a little embarrassing, you can always talk to us. If you've got any questions or worries about anything you've read or heard, you can call Ask Brook for free on 0808 8021234.