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When you’re ready to come out to other people, don’t tell everyone at once. Start by picking someone you trust and who you feel will be supportive and understanding.
If you wish, you could talk to a professional who has expertise in dealing with trans and non-binary people. This may help you prepare for telling loved ones who will probably have lots of questions.
If you get a negative reaction, give that person space and time to process things. It can be a shock and people may need time to think about it, research it and digest. Try to put yourself in their shoes and consider the time it took you to come to terms with your gender identity.
Making contact with other people who are in a similar situation can really help. It can help to build your confidence which can really help you to talk to your loved ones.
Being accepted by your loved ones is an enormous stepping stone to building your self-esteem. Explain this to them and be wise about moving away from those who cannot or will not accept you for who you are.
If you ask those around you to start calling you by a different name, try to be patient about the fact it may take them a while to get used to this.
Sadly it’s not uncommon for trans men and trans women to experience prejudice and discrimination but what most trans men and trans women tell you is that the most important thing is to feel comfortable with your identity and to live your life in the way that feels best to you.
Some helpful strategies for building your resilience include:
Content reviewed by Kirstie McEwan – Lead tutor in Gender Studies, Cambridge Institute of Clinical Sexology, accredited therapist and trustee of the College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists.
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