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Advice for my little brother

Being the eldest can be hard, you are the first sibling to go to school, college, and to have relationships. But it also allows you to experience life and pass on the best bits of advice to your siblings that you wish someone had given you.

We asked our social media followers what advice they would give to their younger brother, and this is what they said…

It’s ok to cry!

Don’t bottle things up. It’s good to talk. If you’re feeling anxious, stressed, sad or worried then talk to someone. The belief that boys and men shouldn’t show their emotions is damaging. So be brave, even if you feel vulnerable for a bit you will feel much better after sharing your feelings. 

Surround yourself with positive people

Whether it’s your friends, family or romantic interests, make sure you surround yourself with people that make you feel good about yourself. You can’t expect everyone to be happy all the time but if you feel you are putting a lot into a relationship and not getting the same in return then maybe it’s time to distance yourself a little. 

Treat everyone with respect, and be honest

Always treat others how you would like to be treated yourself. Be honest with yourself and with other people – even if the truth is going hurt. We all make mistakes but lying to cover them up just makes things 100 times worse in the long run.

Have fun but be safe

You’re only young once so have fun! But make sure you stay safe. When you start having sex, if you haven’t already, then make sure you use a condom! Whatever type of sex you’re having and whoever it is with you need to protect yourself and them from STIs and unwanted pregnancy. 

Don’t worry about the future

There’s no point in worrying about something that hasn’t happened yet. Enjoy the present. It doesn’t matter if you’re not the cleverest or funniest person in your class just make sure you always do the best you can and be proud of yourself for that.

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