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The menopause can be a challenging topic to talk about for some people. This can mean that there’s a lack of understanding and accurate knowledge about what the menopause is and how it affects women and people with uteruses. Explore some of the most common myths below and why they’re not accurate.
Although the average age for reaching the menopause is between 44 and 56, there are many reasons why someone may experience it earlier than this:
Hot flushes are the most visible and common symptom of the perimenopause but is by no means the only one. The mental and emotional impacts of the menopause are for many people just as real as the physical ones.
Hot flushes themselves can often be downplayed. They can occur at any time, night and day, and aside from the obvious discomfort, can also be accompanied by a change in mood and lack of concentration. Put this together with the fact that some people experience hot flushes as frequently as every hour lasting around four minutes, and suddenly they don’t seem so trivial.
Many people assume that entering the perimenopause or menopause means your sex life is over.
It is true that the change in hormones during the perimenopause, menopause and postmenopause can cause tiredness, a lower libido (desire to have sex), the clitoris to lose sensation, and the vagina to become dryer and less easy to arouse leading to painful penetrative sex.
From this you might assume that sex is off the cards but, for many people, the menopause can also lead to an increase in libido because they:
So if you want to have sex, there are many ways of managing the changes the menopause brings so you can continue to have a healthy and happy sex life:
You do you!
You should never feel that you have to have sex. You never owe anyone sex and that includes your partner. You should do whatever feels good for you!
You can still get pregnant until you reach the menopause or the age of 55, whichever comes first. You need to consider contraception for two years after your periods stop. If you are in the perimenopause and don’t want to get pregnant, it’s important to use contraception even if your periods are irregular and only come every few months.
Using hormonal contraception in the perimenopause phase can make it difficult to know if/when you have reached the menopause as they can cause a withdrawal bleed that looks like a period or cause your periods to stop.
If you’re not sure, you can take a menopause test at your doctors that will measure the levels of follicle-stimulating hormone (FSH) in your blood. This is not 100% reliable and won’t be accurate if you’re using the combined pill.
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Menopause is still a taboo topic for many people despite half the population experiencing it. The stigma that has surrounded it throughout history, including being the butt of jokes or judging those who are menopausal to be hormonal, emotional and erratic, mean people can find it uncomfortable to talk about what they’re going through.
However, menopause should never be something to be embarrassed about. By talking about it and its impact on your life, you can support others and get support for yourself at work and at home.
Many people going through menopause will think they just have to put up with symptoms and feel that they are making a fuss by seeing a doctor or asking for support. This isn’t true, there’s lots of support out there and lots of ways you can minimise these symptoms.
If any of the symptoms you’re experiencing are having an impact on your daily life, work, ability to socialise or how you feel within yourself, always speak to a doctor. Talking to others at the same stage as you can also help provide support and advice, whether that’s in a menopause support group or friends and family.
HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy) is used to replace the hormones that have fallen during the menopause.
It has proven to be the most effective treatment of menopause symptoms including hot flushes, night sweats, mood swings, vaginal dryness and reduced sex drive and is very safe. It can also support with bone health.
Combined HRT (HRT that contains oestrogen and progesterone) can be associated with a small increased risk of breast cancer. This risk is very low and for most people suffering with menopause symptoms the benefits far outweigh the risk.
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